Before Jaxson came into our life we were always very open with not only our plan to adopt, but our plan to adopt a child with Down Syndrome. The most common reaction was “Why would you do that” (with the exasperated, gasping undertone), followed by “oh my god did you realize you’re going to have a child FOREVER”. Or the second most popular reaction of “oh my god, you guys are AMAZING people for doing that”. Well I think we are neither crazy or amazing, just 2 people who have lots of love to give to a special child.
I thought the only way to start this blog off right would be to go back to the beginning and answer that most annoying question of “WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT!?!?”. And here it goes…..
When I was a young child I had a good friend named Mandy. Mandy was a few years older than I was and she just so happened to have Down Syndrome. She also happened to be my neighbour, and of course when you are young and untainted by the world you don’t choose your friends. Your friends are whoever you are surrounded by, and since Mandy lived right next-door, our friendship was very convenient. I think I always knew Mandy was ‘different’ but I always LOVED being around her, she was fun, carefree, and easy to be with. This friendship cultivated my love for people with DS.
My mom recently told me that when I was 7, I came home one day and told her that I was going to grow up to be a mommy to a child just like Mandy. This makes me chuckle because I did not realize that I had this vision for my life at such a young age. I do however, remember being in jr high school and making pacts with my friends (and they can attest to this) that whoever had a child born with DS would be giving them to me. Maybe a little inappropriate? I’m not too sure, lol. I have just always known that I would one day parent one of these special kids.
I had always made my desire clear to Alex, and I guess I could say she was always ‘on board-ish’. We had settled on the agreement that if one day, down the road when we had a bunch of money stock piled away (yeah right) and we could afford for me to be home full time for at least 5 years, then we can adopt a child with DS. I think in Alex’s mind she knew this wouldn’t actually come to fruition and I was appeased in the meantime. Or so she thought…….
Well needless to say Alex had an ‘ah ha’ moment (I’ll let her share that story) and here we are 8 months later with our beautiful little Jaxson…..
I encourage everyone to educate themselves about DS and you will see why we are neither crazy for wanting a child with DS, or ‘amazing angels’ for taking this on.
We are just a couple of gals who were meant to be Jaxson’s mommies…..